Ok so i’m one of those people that believe that you have to earn the term mom. I dont mean by giving birth, thats not earning it. Ya ok, I get that its painful and all, but the person who is giving birth, made a choice at some point for that pain, wether it be a bad choice for them or a good one. Many mothers act like because they gave birth to a child they deserve some extra respect. This shouldnt be the case. Why give someone more respect because they went through pain THEY chose to go through.
If you have read one of my previous posts about my mother, you’ll know that she is not a part of my life. Just because she chose to block me out does not mean that this is why I think this way. It just opened my eyes to a lot of things. It showed me that a mom, is someone who is there for you, who is your bestfriend but also someone who is tough on you. Ever heard of “tough love”? Well a mom will do this because they have to, not because they want to. Actually, they really dislike doing it but they know they have to, to give their child boundaries and discipline to prepare them for the real world.
To be completely honest, I used to absolutely hate my step mom. In my eyes she was over protective, never let me do anything and I thought she hated me. It got me even more mad because when I went to my mothers, she let me do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted. I looked at my mother like she was my hero. A few years later, I started understanding that my mother was never there when I needed her, and the reason she let me do whatever I want is because she was either out with her friends or too drunk and high to care. She never came to any schooling events, sporting events.. nothing. When I realized this, I realized my real hero was my step mom.. who I now proudly call my mom. I love her more than anything. She was strong enough to be my mom, to stand by me even when she knew I didnt want her to, even if that meant she had to play the bad guy for a little while. She did it because she knew I needed her, more than ever. She is the one who made time for me, took care of me, helped me through tough times, even if im not biologically hers. She earned the term mom. She is my mom. No one else can ever change that.
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